Flirting

Flirting

Flirting is a fun interaction between someone that you either physically or mentally have some sort of attraction too.

Why we flirt

We flirt as a part of human nature showing attraction to one another in some shape or form. It is a way we show interest in someone or grab attention from someone to show off in a light form and makes oneself feel sexy.

How to flirt

First key of flirting is how to convey onto someone that you find them attractive or interesting and then to be able to take in whether or not they have sensed you omitting onto them you are interested. Then they will be more open to show flirtatious responses to you and allow you to flirt more with them.

The response of them needs to be examined carefully and could be omitted by non verbal or verbal communication. Sometimes via someone telling you they were speaking of you out handily or have stated to someone they found you this or found you that.
The best forms of communication to initiate flirting on take on the responses of initiated flirting will most likely are non verbal and body language. These non verbal flirting signs will tell you more about their feelings to you than words will ever. So postures, initial gestures and facial expressions are what you should look for.

Where we flirt

Parties, pubs, bars, education places, sports/hobbies, spectator events, workplaces are the most common places that we find ourselves flirting with likeminded people.
At parties, pubs, bars we find ourselves flirting as it is the most common place that it is open to meet new people. The behaviour to expect someone to flirt with you is sitting there on the top of your mind.

At the workplace, educational places, spectator events it is possible that you may have someone flirting with you as you come into contact with them on a timely basis and your persona is either casual or professional or switching during the day which shows another light of yourself which naturally attracts the human instinct to want to find out more about you so light friendly flirting is most commonly imitated to see if you are game.

Who we flirt with

Naturally we show a form of flirting with opposite sex on more levels then one. Sharing glances, light flirtatious chat can make the day feel like a Friday, strengthen self esteem and create social bonds. Flirting at that kind of level is for fun and completely harmless.

Flirting with people in relationships or even married is attraction to a lot of people s when one person s taken for some naturally they find them more appealing to see if they could take their attention whilst they are a taken person or just the plain old naughtiness. Thoughtfulness should be exercised in trying to prime people that are in relationships with flirtatious chat as those people should show signs of what’s more than fun flirting.

Flirting for fun

The first level of flirting is for fun and openness of allowing people to know you are welcoming and is only on a friendly note and to brighten up meeting someone for the first time.
When flirting on a friendly note you need to exercise caution not to overflow flirting with someone whom may take it to be serious and more then what it really is.

Men have a tendency to mistake friendly flirting as a direct sign to initiate something more then what it is; so women need to take this into mind and avoid sending the wrong signals.
Also men need to take into account flirting for fun and not lead women astray when flirting.

Flirting intentionally

Flirting intentionally is how most people select their possible boyfriend or girlfriend. This form of flirting will most likely start on a level of fun flirting and will go on to intent flirting if one feels there is likeliness is on the same level.

Flirting with the right deemed person

It is important to flirt with someone on the right level of attractiveness; as to not be in response of rejection (not that this should be taken so hard).

Assuming your own level of attractiveness is something not easy toundertake on both levels of sex – a lot of people underestimate themselves. So common fun flirting and taking in responses will let you know where you stand with your flirting skills.

Non verbal flirting

When meeting an attracted sex for the first time, by default non verbal flirting is used as there is a risk of embarrassment or rejection if verbal flirting is used. Therefore automatically postures, body language becomes the natural form of communication

We have outlined the non verbal flirting skills that become accustomed to people when there found in these sticky situations.

Eye contact

Your eyes are the most powerful flirting tool used to receive and transmit information. The glance or gaze you give someone with your eyes can be the deciding factor between a welcomed, fun full flirtatious and a rejected flirting response.

Direct eye contact with another person, is such a powerful form of non verbal communication that we tend not to look into their eyes for more than 2 seconds unless relaying important information or you are in love with that person mutually.

That being said this is a great way to invite or initiate flirting with someone you find attractive. From across a far, as long as your eyes can meet you can make your non verbal flirtatious signal.

1st step make eyes contact with the person you choose and attempt to hold your targets direct eye contact for roughly 1 second and then glance away very slowly as if reluctantly.

2nd step your target should look away briefly and upon you glancing back at her/him they should also be meeting your gaze; a light form of welcomed facial expression should be shown by both of you, either a smile or playing of the hair.

3rd if either smile or playing of the hair has been received – this is a safe bet to assure that he/she is interested and you can confidently approach your target as you are the one whom initially made first contact with the person.

4th if your eye contact does not seem to be received this could be because your target is shy. Both sexes have a level of shyness upon meeting people via non verbal glancing as they may not be used to it and more time people start of communication with the eyes and leave it way too late to actually go over to them. The way to find out is to observer your targets bodily signs towards others. Does he/she avoid eye contact with her opposite sex? Does he/she seem nervous? Upon studying these things it will not harm to cautiously approach him/her and start a light banter maybe introducing yourself.

5th approaching your target, you will need to make eye contact to confirm to them you want to spark a conversation with them. As soon as your eyes meet and you are in relative distance with them you may begin to speak with them.

6th signs to allow your turn to speak; as soon as conversation has been initiated it is fare to say the person whom is speaking will look away more than the person whom is listening, which allows the person listening to get a full look of you in your entirety. You take turns speaking by initiating direct eye contact again and then the person will know you are inviting an response which then allows you to do the listening and looking back at her/him 75% of the time to show you are interested in what they are saying. This is done vice versa to initiate response contact by using the eyes.

Basis of light pleasant flirting conversation is to glance at the persons face when you are listening and make light eye contact here and there to prepare to conversation turn taking. Avoid prolonged eye contact or staring away. Which gives of signals that leaves the person thinking; you are not interested, maybe thinking one thing or invading his/her privacy.

Most common flirting mistakes made are to over exert eye contact to increase intimacy for one another. This gives of signs in the mind that makes them feel uncomfortable. Some men and women blow their chances by looking at genital areas, thus making the person think there just looking for a quickie or in all blowing their chances completely.